Stepping Back

Sometimes we get caught up in our own lives, our own drama. When that happens, everything and everyone else around us seems to be more annoying….and then we fail to see that someone else actually may need help (more help than we need ourselves).

I stepped back a little last night, and instead of getting angry about a situation I realized that this was actually a moment to reach out and help a colleague (this was a sign that they needed guidance and optimism that there would be a turning point for the positive).

When is the last time you were able to do this (I cant get my question mark to work…hence no question mark after my questions right now).

Yes…everything is not always about you…sometimes we all need to step back to realize this. Its easy to get caught up in trivial things, or things we do not necessarily have control over.

Being able to do this type of thing will decrease your stress, and believe it or not, help you stay focused. This in turn helps you achieve all your goals whether health and fitness based, career based, or other.

Have a great day!


Fitness Topics

I would like to be able to provide people with information about Health and Fitness Topics.

For me just because of my busy schedule, I think it would work better if people reply to this blog post with things you may want to learn about or want a different opinion about. That way I can manage my time better and not get overwhelmed with trying to make a decision about which topics to write about. Some topics may spark others at which time I will start to think about what comes next.

I look forward to hearing from youimg_20160518_183738

What Anxiety Looks Like

Take a look at this picture. Do any of these ail you?

Its in your best interest to start implementing things in your life to decrease your level of anxiety.  Stress can wreak havoc on the body physically, emotionally, psychologically and the list goes on.

Here are a few helpful suggestions to start on the road to decreasing and even eliminating your symptoms:

  • take a walk outdoors and enjoy the sounds and smells (try to do this sans technology)
  • Have a massage
  • take a yoga/mediation class/workshop
  • use deep breathing exercises
  • talk to someone who is a great listener
  • do some journaling
  • stay hydrated
  • get enough sleep
  • Make healthy food choices
  • make time for a regular exercise routine
  • take a relaxing candle lit bubble bath (you can have silence or listen to some relaxing music – i suggest classical)

These are just a few ideas to help you out. There are so many things you can try to help.

What do you like to do to decrease your anxiety levels?



Know your Limits

My post today comes from seeing an old Facebook Post in my history which I think is so important to learning how to live a balanced life. Its the picture that is the Featured Image.

I think this might be useful to many people, as it seems it is a common problem.

Have you ever found yourself being approached by different co-workers, friends, family etc. to help them out or asking if you want to go out to a special event or any endless list of requests? I am thinking as its just the nature of humans most of us would answer YES to my question.

How do you answer when approached? Do you say yes to them every single time? Do you find as a result that your own projects, hobbies, or “me” time have been put on the back burner? How does this make you feel?

Sometimes saying yes can be exciting, and very positive to our growth, but not always.

If there are any negative thoughts, resentment, or stress associated with the extra you just put onto your own plate and timetable it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities. Stop and try to recognize when it is realistic to add something else into your life that has been requested from someone else. Know your limits and know when its time to start answering no.

For a long time I had to cut back on many things. I slowly started adding my own interests back into my life. Now that I have developed a flow to everything I do, I am feeling a sense of balance.  When approached I can say, this could be a possibility, but not at a high frequency per month (for example).

But I do feel that because I am opening up my mind to new possibilities and directions for my passions and interests, there will be a time again where I will have to cut things off again and say no to anything else new while I try to contribute my best to the projects at hand.

More is not always better. Sometimes it is best to stick to a small number of things and do your best at them. As the saying goes – Quality over Quantity!

What is your experience with this?

Fitness through Dance and Fitness to Support Dance

I have been studying different forms of dance since the age of 5 yrs old. Ballet, Jazz, Modern, Salsa, Hip Hop, Belly Dance and Flamenco. In the latter part of my dance training it has mostly been Belly Dance and Flamenco.

There was a time where I could do it and nothing phased me. Later I ever so slightly felt it draining me a little more than usual. I never really had injuries from dancing.  As I got older I realized running/jogging and dancing was not going to be what would help me to lose weight anymore. I started to train in the gym seriously with a trainer and then became a trainer.

Once I lost 15-20lbs I noticed differences in my dancing.  Not only was i lighter, but I had developed more muscle in my body. As a result, in bellydance, there were moves like undulations for example that I could execute with little effort, where I know I used to have to use more energy to create certain movements. They became more easy and fluid. With Flamenco, I noticed footwork became easier because i was lighter and also it was stronger because of the amount of muscle being put into it.

Now, what I am finding, and it has been brought to my attention by a friend in my flamenco world that dancers from about 35 yrs+ in age may be in need of more than just dance. There are dancers that lack a strong core, or good muscle development to support the impact created through footwork. Some surprisingly do not have a lot of body awareness and so are not aware of how to get the energy out from their core to their extremities to create energy into the arms, and hands. Because of this they can not create a full package. Because of certain muscle imbalances, injuries either related to dance or outside dance develop and then cause a dancer to have to take time off. (For a dancer to spend any time not dancing is never a good feeling!)

My Flamenco Dance Teacher also recognized there may be a need for some type of fitness class offered for flamenco dancers to increase their strength. Whether its a class or one on one training this is a specialized niche that seems to need some help.

Yes dance of any kind can have great fitness benefits, but sometimes the body requires more to support further improvements to advance to higher levels of proficiency. Or if someone wants to continue dancing for recreation, proper strengthening of the body can further allow a dancer to dance well into their later years.

If you are a dancer and are interested in learning more stay tuned. I will share more!

Alternatively, you can also contact me.

Self Awareness = Self Control

How aware are you of whether you are full at a meal or not?

How aware are you of whether you really want that dessert, need that dessert, crave that dessert or just need something to do?

Having been in the fitness industry acting as a role model for other people and having been through my own transformation in the past I have a very good handle on this now.

One of the most interesting things to me was my latest vacation to Cuba for the New Year.

In the past I would go to all inclusive resorts and eat more than one plate of food at every meal and go crazy on dessert….If you think about it, All inclusive is kind of like going to an all you can eat buffet …..except now, its all the alcohol you can drink, all the food you can eat. One can take it to the extreme…haha.

This time around, I think because i was in a much more relaxed state (I only used my phone to text maybe 2 days out of 8, and the rest of the time I took pictures), I slowed everything down.

I literally sauntered everywhere. I sat and didn’t rush my meals. I slowed down how often my fork touched my mouth. I slowed down to talk, I slowed down to say hello to the resident cats. Then when my plate was empty I drank my coffee/juice and waited. Sometimes I got up for a little extra, sometimes I didn’t. It was a choice made solely on if I was really still hungry or if I was satisfied or not. I didn’t just blindly get up to get another plate because its already paid for in my all inclusive.

Only 2 out of 7 nights I ate dessert. All the other days I didn’t really care to have anything. One of the desserts was at the a la carte meal, the other was a night when the desserts looked especially special. Otherwise I was able to look at them, by pass them and move on.

I think the main thing is, here at home, we are always going, sometimes on high speed. If your lifestyle is high speed, it would make it very hard to be self aware and demonstrate self control. Take some time to slow down even if its not a vacation. Take some “me” time and start to tune in and see what you can learn about yourself, and see if that helps you to make some lifestyle changes for the better.

October came & went!

Well October came and went like a bat out of hell! hahah

My goal every October, and the way I like to celebrate Halloween the most is usually by watching scary movies and Halloween specials on TV. This year it was a little different because I don’t have cable. I have Netflix! So I decided, for the whole month of October I would watch as many horror movies etc. as I could! hahaha….at one point it got a bit ridiculous in that I would try to watch more than one movie an evening when i would get home late from work. That was a mistake and I tanked quickly! So I decided all movie watching had to end by 11 pm no matter what so as to get enough sleep and be able to function properly on a daily basis. So the cut off time for starting a movie was between 9- 9:15 pm. That worked well.

I also bought passes to the Toronto After Dark Film Festival and got to watch 8 more movies!! Some were better than others…I only had to literally walk out of one…it was so bad……!

In total I think I had to have watched well over 30 movies for the entire month! Super fun! Apparently there is another shorter film festival for horror movies this month (November)! I may check all or some of those movies out too!

I am happy October Movie watching is over now though. I have been superbly procrastinating on doing an online course through the CHEK Institute (Paul Chek a major fitness guru world renowned). Time to get on it!

I hope you all had a great October and a Happy Halloween! Time to make November productive!

A Wonderful Reunion

A few weeks ago I went to a reunion lunch that I organized which took I think 3 months to make happen!

The group, some of my very first Belly Dance Students from maybe 7-10 years ago! We all became friends at one point, and then as everyone started getting married and some having kids, life got hectic and we all parted ways. When we saw each other was at our weddings and some baby showers. We all followed each other through Facebook, but one day I decided, I wasn’t seeing enough of different groups of friends. Part of my life now is rekindling friendships from the distant past that were meaningful to me which just got sidetracked with life.

It was a really nice afternoon. We went to spring rolls downtown. Everyone talked about their kids which was really entertaining. I don’t have kids by choice, so i listen and enjoy, and they all listen to my crazy life. haha

My life full of Martial Arts, Dance, Fitness and Partying. I would like to start adding Travelling back into that list!

We all decided that we should try and meet every 6 months now. I suggested every 3 months, and we decided maybe if we try for every 3 months we will actually meet every 6 months.

Sometimes bonds we create with people when we are younger become just as good if not better later in life. I look forward to rekindling these connections further.

I am just sitting at Starbucks on my morning break before heading back to CoreFit Training to train my clients. Its beautiful and sunny and could not ask for anything more. Well….except for a vacation!! hahahakeep calm the reunion is soon


I have not written here in a while. So much has been going on! There have been a lot of life changes over the past little while. Some good, some appearing not to be good. But really, sometimes things that don’t seem positive are just disguised that way.

I am super happy to be really busy with personal training again. It took me about 2 years to rebuild my clientele up to where it was before I left working for a large corporation. I am happy because I am now able to help a lot of people, and income is not a worry anymore. I do miss having a lot of spare time, but the good thing about being really busy is that, I stay way more organized. I am actually able to accomplish many more things on a daily and weekly basis as well.

In January I returned to flamenco dancing after what I was told about a 2.5 year break! Man, I am never taking that long a break from flamenco ever again. I have a show coming up in August! Excited, yet scared at the same time as i have not done a stage show/recital in either Flamenco or Belly Dance in years! That is ok…i will rock it man! hahaha

Been through some injuries as well…but I am finally getting my body back to normal which means I can train myself again, I can get back into muay thai hopefully full force again and I can keep dancing!

I now just need to find the moment for my next small, medium and large vacations! I need to get away!

As I sit at my desk typing this, i am listening to the sound of the rain falling outside my window and a bus going by. Just waiting to finish my laundry and then make dinner and meal prep for the next couple days.

I have some exciting things coming up!

  • Reunion Lunch with a group of girlfriends who were my very first serious bellydance students ever
  • Flamenco Juerga (Party) hosted by my flamenco dance teacher Carmen Romero
  • My mom’s 76th birthday

Until then…..