Self-Actualization Process

Have you ever gone in circles over something, never quite realizing that you already know what you should be focusing on in life, only to realize that that thing you have always wanted to do is what you should be doing? LMAO

Well, that’s what I have been going through lately. Remember I mentioned I was getting self-actualization coaching? Well damn, this woman is amazing at what she does! I am more than happy to share her information with anyone who is looking for that coach to help them “self-actualize” and reach their goals and reach their full potential in this world.

When cornered with the question “Who am I? Who is Kelly” and also being advised to get out of my head, to stop being so philosophical and intellectual and start listening more to my intuition (which was slowly coming but not when it came to me personally), I was stumped! All I wanted to do to get that answer is start thinking, which was what I was advised not to do.

So I realized, it was time to go to another guided meditation. But it had to be a very specific one. I found one that was just over 20 minutes long which was perfect because I had to get onto my assigned homework asap. It was one called Connect With Your Spirit Guides & Receive Messages and Guidance – Guided Meditation  https://youtu.be/Cm39DCby7oA

It was absolutely amazing. I followed everything in the meditation and I got all the answers to my questions. I connected myself to my spirit guide and yes indeed all the answers were always within me. If left to my brain, what came out would never have come out on its own.

To try and keep it short and sweet, my mission on this earth is Dance with a side of Fitness. Not Fitness with a side of dance. I am a dancer. That is who and what I am. I just happen to be a dancer with a vast array of experience, knowledge and skill in the fitness industry. Something else I also realized is, although I could be marketing to and teaching people belly dance and flamenco, that is not the first order of business. That is something I will do, but right now its more important that I reach the people out there who have a fear of dancing in public. Lots of reasons why this can be. And i also realized along the way in this journey that it’s not just people who haven’t started to add dance in their lives, but it can also be relatable to people who are dancers. This could be a whole other blog post.

So yes! My mission for KellyKinetics is very different from what it first set out to be, but because of this, my gift to this world has much more purpose and meaning now. I am excited, and I always listen to my intuition in order to know what the next steps are. So far things are building up great. There are Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo many people out there that need my help to dance like nobody is watching. I have quite a few different methods of how I will develop this ability in people. I am excited to get started!

If you are in the GTA (Greater Toronto Area) I have developed a meetup group, and I invite you to join if you want to shed old fears and let the the music carry you. Follow this link to join https://www.meetup.com/Toronto-Let-go-the-fear-of-dancing-in-public-Meetup/

Dance can bring you comfort and joy.

You can find new energy and happiness through movement.

Build confidence in your abilities

Connect with different people who share similar interests

Thrive through life with dance and being able to dance like no one is watching

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Stay on your Victory Path!

Whether you have goals in life – love, career, health, fitness, money, you name it, you need to stay focused.

There will be so many things that can come along that are there set as distractions. Be aware of this and try not to spend too much time entertaining these outside things. You know what you want, you know what you need to get there and obtain it, plough on through and just do it!

The light is at the end of the tunnel…. you can see it…. but it still seems so close yet so far away….sound familiar?

This is when your voice of self doubt will come in, negative thoughts will enter your head, and you’ll on your very own fall of course if you don’t take the necessary steps to stay on your victory path!

What do I do when I feel this start to happen? A big thing I do now is drop everything I am doing as long as I am not in a class myself or with a client, and put my earbuds in, go to youtube and find some great guided meditations. This always turns my head back on straight, and then I can carry on with my day as if none of those things even entered my head.

Important thing is unless you have hours to spare, once you find a guided meditation you feel will work for you, set your alarm!

It is very easy to become so relaxed and focused on the mindwork in the meditation that you fall asleep. Don’t worry if you fall asleep, the messages still reach your subconscious mind, which is where a lot of these mind blocks, self doubt, and negativity are housed.

I will share a few of the one’s I use on a regular basis. I suggest lying down for the fullest relaxation experience, but it can be done seated and close your eyes. Follow what the voice says.

I hope these help you as much as they have helped me. I welcome your feedback!

Have a great day! 🙂

Even Coaches need Coaches

Its been a while since I wrote a blog. A lot has been happening. I have not felt like writing much of anything until now.

One thing we as Trainers/Coaches and anyone else in a career that helps people need to realize, is that we are not always ok. In order to be the positive influencers for our own clients, we need to be in a positive space, physically, mentally and spiritually. If even one of these areas is off, it can change your thinking, all your interactions and even affect how your business runs .

How in touch with who you are as a person will determine whether you realize if you need help or not. Even if you realize you need help, figuring out what type of help you need for that moment in time is crucial. You may need a coach to help you get in touch with your inner self again before you can even move on.

It’s interesting, because I went through some positive self development last year, and totally thought I was off to the races, until similar patterns crept up this year. I realized I needed to nip this in the bud! Everything was off, I only had a handle on my body physically. I opened myself up to a new circle of people which lead me to my current Self-Actualization/Business Development Coach (Rev Lady Jan).

Most of us know a lot of what a coach like this will talk to us about. But sometimes, it’s so hard to practice what you know. This is why you need to hire that coach. Someone who can keep you accountable, someone who can even explain to you what you may already know, but differently. All of a sudden you see everything in a different light and that’s what sparks the ignition to go!

You may realize, after a lot of blaming everything and everyone else that all the seemingly negative things that are happening, are a result of your own mindset, words you speak and therefore seeds you’ve planted. Do you really want to keep watering those seeds that are just becoming weeds that are clouding your focus??? This might seem like the only thing you can do, because you’ve been living your own manifestation for who knows how long. But guess what!? Its a vicious vicious cycle that if you don’t just decide to stop and make a complete 360 in your mind, you will continue to live the negative manifestation of your life.

You may have heard before, that the mind is a powerful thing. Well this is no joke!

I will admit, I dug myself into a financial hole that was bigger than I could have ever imagined. I spoke words like, “I can’t afford it, I have no money, once I pay my debt off, I wish i could do _____, but I have no money”. I had different variations of all of that, and the more I spoke these words to people, the more they got ingrained in my mind, the more my mind would think about these things, I would imagine the worst, the worst would start happening, and just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, even worse would happen….and sometimes the unimaginable to the point where I was just like, ENOUGH! THIS IS RIDICULOUS! THIS IS NOT ME, and THIS IS NOT MY LIFE.

Its even giving me a headache right now having shared that, but I felt it was important to share to illustrate how severely our own minds can create our self-sabotage.

I started changing my mindset and spoken words and thoughts immediately. Next thing I know I have money to pay for my coach for a 3 month program, and money to pay for a psychotherapist 2-3 times a month. As I am going through new learning on a deeper level than my current knowledge its very easy to have set backs, but I see the set backs coming, I embrace them, acknowledge them, and conquer!

Over the last few months, the universe has brought the right people into my life, and the right set of events are starting to happen, leading to what my true goals for life are.

I am very mindful now of the sentences and words that I speak out loud and in my head. And if at any moment I feel the wrong ones trying to creep back in, which is usually on my off hours not seeing clients, I stop everything and lie down for a guided meditation geared to exactly the thing that is trying to creep in. By the end of it, all has changed and I am back on the right track.

My Life has changed. I live a life full of abundance. I am servicing my perfect niche for clients and I have so much more than I can even have imagined. I am magnificent, and I am a Queen!

If you work with a trainer, coach or therapist who tells you they hired someone, be thankful. The person you go to is working on becoming a better version of themselves which in turn will provide you with an even better service and a better overall outcome for your life and your goals.

I am more than happy to provide contact information for any coaches I have used in the past or am currently working with.

I invite anyone to share their experiences with positive versus negative minds set and what it has manifested in your life.

End of Year Flamenco Recital

Well, it looks like its that time of year again! I am going to say, I don’t feel quite as confident in my Advanced Dance Class piece – Tarantos – as I did in all of my dance pieces last June, but it will definitely still go well.

The reason I don’t feel as confident comes from the fact that, I took the fall term off. I returned in January 2019 to find that the class had already learned almost half the choreography. This was the second year I had to catch up in learning a piece. Last year’s piece I learned from day 1 and our group practiced weekly so the chemistry in class and on stage made for 4 very confident dancers.

I also decided to reconnect with learning Flamenco Cante (singing). This year will be the first year I sing on stage…and, its in Spanish! I am pretty excited about that, but, there is one song we are learning out of all of them that for all of us seems so hard to memorize compared to all the others. My goal this week was to have half of that song memorized by tomorrow. I have it half memorized and its a day early. So I have full confidence that by the show next Friday, I will have that entire song memorized.

I am a little stressed, but over all, these shows are fun. The full school rehearsals start tomorrow!

My Recital will be next Friday June 28th @7pm!

Action Shot from Last Years Recital – 25 year Anniversary Show of Compania Carmen Romero

My Core…Brace it? WHAT?!

I recently did a blog post about “There’s More to the Core”. I also have a blog post about the Deadbug. This has now prompted me to talk about this concept of bracing further, but in such a way, that the average person reading this can grasp it on a basic level.

I want to explain my choice of picture accompaniment! Ha-ha-ha. When I was looking for a picture that best showed what bracing
the core is, it was one of those conundrums again of, well, what
best represents bracing the core? There were so many options. I
decided to go for the feeling or what people will experience when bracing. The funny thing about this picture is, the photographer
says its a guy laughing…..to me I see bracing! LOL 

But if you think about it….when you laugh really hard, you are
actually bracing your core…. 

I have a client who I have had on a consistent basis for about 2
years 3 times weekly. When I was teaching her the deadbug, the
bracing concept did not come easily…. we worked at it for a long
time! One day I said something pretty funny, I made her
laugh while she was doing a deadbug and all of a sudden, BOOM! She felt the brace! Her core turned on, and she felt the hard brace with her back glued to the mat…..EUREKA! We were both so
elated!

I said to her, if ever you can’t find the brace I need from you to be
able to crush my hand into the mat and not let my fingers wiggle,
start laughing. She has now been able to consistently find that
brace, not only in the deadbug, but in many other exercises. Her
mind and body are really starting to connect, and there have
been a lot more AHA moments on a consistent basis.
Congratulations to Rita for not only reaching Baby Hardcore
Status, but starting to graduate to the next level! 

The other thing I have noticed over time, is the more experienced I become the more methods I can access within my brain to get
the concept across. The client-trainer relationship is a two way
street. While I teach my clients, my clients teach me. I love it! 

I have many types of exercises with both regressions and
progressions to help clients develop their ability to brace, as well
as different modes of teaching to get the concept across. No
matter what way you learn best, I can tap into your learning needs so you 100% get this!

Back to the picture! The Deadbug even though its one of those
exercises that looks like nothing, if done correctly you should feel an absolute torture! I see this man’s bracing through laughter in
two ways, amusement and pleasure, and also grimacing through
torture….hahaha..yes I am an oddball, but whatever…that’s me!
LOL  

Remember, being able to brace your core is a large determining
factor in how well you do in daily life currently and in the future. 

Tell me
Have you already mastered bracing your core?
OR
Have you learned how to brace your core, but are still not able to
do it correctly 100% of the time?
OR
Do you need to learn how to brace your core?
(you have never heard of it, or have heard of it but don’t know
how to do it or have tried and have no idea if you are doing it
correctly)

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend!