Even Coaches need Coaches

Its been a while since I wrote a blog. A lot has been happening. I have not felt like writing much of anything until now.

One thing we as Trainers/Coaches and anyone else in a career that helps people need to realize, is that we are not always ok. In order to be the positive influencers for our own clients, we need to be in a positive space, physically, mentally and spiritually. If even one of these areas is off, it can change your thinking, all your interactions and even affect how your business runs .

How in touch with who you are as a person will determine whether you realize if you need help or not. Even if you realize you need help, figuring out what type of help you need for that moment in time is crucial. You may need a coach to help you get in touch with your inner self again before you can even move on.

It’s interesting, because I went through some positive self development last year, and totally thought I was off to the races, until similar patterns crept up this year. I realized I needed to nip this in the bud! Everything was off, I only had a handle on my body physically. I opened myself up to a new circle of people which lead me to my current Self-Actualization/Business Development Coach (Rev Lady Jan).

Most of us know a lot of what a coach like this will talk to us about. But sometimes, it’s so hard to practice what you know. This is why you need to hire that coach. Someone who can keep you accountable, someone who can even explain to you what you may already know, but differently. All of a sudden you see everything in a different light and that’s what sparks the ignition to go!

You may realize, after a lot of blaming everything and everyone else that all the seemingly negative things that are happening, are a result of your own mindset, words you speak and therefore seeds you’ve planted. Do you really want to keep watering those seeds that are just becoming weeds that are clouding your focus??? This might seem like the only thing you can do, because you’ve been living your own manifestation for who knows how long. But guess what!? Its a vicious vicious cycle that if you don’t just decide to stop and make a complete 360 in your mind, you will continue to live the negative manifestation of your life.

You may have heard before, that the mind is a powerful thing. Well this is no joke!

I will admit, I dug myself into a financial hole that was bigger than I could have ever imagined. I spoke words like, “I can’t afford it, I have no money, once I pay my debt off, I wish i could do _____, but I have no money”. I had different variations of all of that, and the more I spoke these words to people, the more they got ingrained in my mind, the more my mind would think about these things, I would imagine the worst, the worst would start happening, and just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, even worse would happen….and sometimes the unimaginable to the point where I was just like, ENOUGH! THIS IS RIDICULOUS! THIS IS NOT ME, and THIS IS NOT MY LIFE.

Its even giving me a headache right now having shared that, but I felt it was important to share to illustrate how severely our own minds can create our self-sabotage.

I started changing my mindset and spoken words and thoughts immediately. Next thing I know I have money to pay for my coach for a 3 month program, and money to pay for a psychotherapist 2-3 times a month. As I am going through new learning on a deeper level than my current knowledge its very easy to have set backs, but I see the set backs coming, I embrace them, acknowledge them, and conquer!

Over the last few months, the universe has brought the right people into my life, and the right set of events are starting to happen, leading to what my true goals for life are.

I am very mindful now of the sentences and words that I speak out loud and in my head. And if at any moment I feel the wrong ones trying to creep back in, which is usually on my off hours not seeing clients, I stop everything and lie down for a guided meditation geared to exactly the thing that is trying to creep in. By the end of it, all has changed and I am back on the right track.

My Life has changed. I live a life full of abundance. I am servicing my perfect niche for clients and I have so much more than I can even have imagined. I am magnificent, and I am a Queen!

If you work with a trainer, coach or therapist who tells you they hired someone, be thankful. The person you go to is working on becoming a better version of themselves which in turn will provide you with an even better service and a better overall outcome for your life and your goals.

I am more than happy to provide contact information for any coaches I have used in the past or am currently working with.

I invite anyone to share their experiences with positive versus negative minds set and what it has manifested in your life.

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End of Year Flamenco Recital

Well, it looks like its that time of year again! I am going to say, I don’t feel quite as confident in my Advanced Dance Class piece – Tarantos – as I did in all of my dance pieces last June, but it will definitely still go well.

The reason I don’t feel as confident comes from the fact that, I took the fall term off. I returned in January 2019 to find that the class had already learned almost half the choreography. This was the second year I had to catch up in learning a piece. Last year’s piece I learned from day 1 and our group practiced weekly so the chemistry in class and on stage made for 4 very confident dancers.

I also decided to reconnect with learning Flamenco Cante (singing). This year will be the first year I sing on stage…and, its in Spanish! I am pretty excited about that, but, there is one song we are learning out of all of them that for all of us seems so hard to memorize compared to all the others. My goal this week was to have half of that song memorized by tomorrow. I have it half memorized and its a day early. So I have full confidence that by the show next Friday, I will have that entire song memorized.

I am a little stressed, but over all, these shows are fun. The full school rehearsals start tomorrow!

My Recital will be next Friday June 28th @7pm!

Action Shot from Last Years Recital – 25 year Anniversary Show of Compania Carmen Romero

My Core…Brace it? WHAT?!

I recently did a blog post about “There’s More to the Core”. I also have a blog post about the Deadbug. This has now prompted me to talk about this concept of bracing further, but in such a way, that the average person reading this can grasp it on a basic level.

I want to explain my choice of picture accompaniment! Ha-ha-ha. When I was looking for a picture that best showed what bracing
the core is, it was one of those conundrums again of, well, what
best represents bracing the core? There were so many options. I
decided to go for the feeling or what people will experience when bracing. The funny thing about this picture is, the photographer
says its a guy laughing…..to me I see bracing! LOL 

But if you think about it….when you laugh really hard, you are
actually bracing your core…. 

I have a client who I have had on a consistent basis for about 2
years 3 times weekly. When I was teaching her the deadbug, the
bracing concept did not come easily…. we worked at it for a long
time! One day I said something pretty funny, I made her
laugh while she was doing a deadbug and all of a sudden, BOOM! She felt the brace! Her core turned on, and she felt the hard brace with her back glued to the mat…..EUREKA! We were both so
elated!

I said to her, if ever you can’t find the brace I need from you to be
able to crush my hand into the mat and not let my fingers wiggle,
start laughing. She has now been able to consistently find that
brace, not only in the deadbug, but in many other exercises. Her
mind and body are really starting to connect, and there have
been a lot more AHA moments on a consistent basis.
Congratulations to Rita for not only reaching Baby Hardcore
Status, but starting to graduate to the next level! 

The other thing I have noticed over time, is the more experienced I become the more methods I can access within my brain to get
the concept across. The client-trainer relationship is a two way
street. While I teach my clients, my clients teach me. I love it! 

I have many types of exercises with both regressions and
progressions to help clients develop their ability to brace, as well
as different modes of teaching to get the concept across. No
matter what way you learn best, I can tap into your learning needs so you 100% get this!

Back to the picture! The Deadbug even though its one of those
exercises that looks like nothing, if done correctly you should feel an absolute torture! I see this man’s bracing through laughter in
two ways, amusement and pleasure, and also grimacing through
torture….hahaha..yes I am an oddball, but whatever…that’s me!
LOL  

Remember, being able to brace your core is a large determining
factor in how well you do in daily life currently and in the future. 

Tell me
Have you already mastered bracing your core?
OR
Have you learned how to brace your core, but are still not able to
do it correctly 100% of the time?
OR
Do you need to learn how to brace your core?
(you have never heard of it, or have heard of it but don’t know
how to do it or have tried and have no idea if you are doing it
correctly)

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend!

Quality Versus Quantity

I was on quite a roll for a while with sending out email campaigns to my mailing list, creating new blogs, and working on website content. Then I had to stop. For a couple weeks I felt that if I sent any emails out, tried to produce any new blogs or continue working on website content that it would not be good quality.
My mind just wasn’t in the head-space that was required to develop good quality content.  Anything I create I have to think is fairly permanent, and so it has to be good. It does not make sense, pushing out loads of stuff if it doesn’t come out as my authentic self, sincere and sounds like I actually care. 

This is a lesson for everyone. Quality far outweighs Quantity. 
However, if a person’s mind set is in the right place, it is entirely possible to push out Quantity with Quality.

Think about your own lives. How have you fared with this? We all have different lives, careers, personal lives etc. Do you ever sacrifice quality for quantity? Do you know how to step back and assess what is going on and know that sometimes it is OK to just stop and take care of yourself?

I have re-developed my ability to tap into my deep gut intuition, and it told me to just stop all work on my business (back end work). For the past couple weeks I have just been working in my business training my clients, but not pushing myself to work on all the behind the scenes stuff so much. When my feelings are geared this way, I go to work, I workout, I go to all the classes I take because they are part of how I stay healthy and true to myself and sane. Healthy nutrition, quality sleep and doing things to pamper yourself are all important too. 

When I first make the decision to step back, I usually get really stressed out because I feel like, OMG, I will get behind, I won’t be able to grow my business fast enough, OMG OMG OMG….hahaha. Yeah you see, how the mind works? The mind is powerful…it can make or break you. And if you decide to keep on going when you shouldn’t, that is when you actually sacrifice quality work.
In the end, sacrificing quality work is a sacrifice in moving yourself forward in anything you do whether you own your own business, whether its a school project, or anything else important. If you give yourself the time to work through whatever it is you need to do to get yourself back to a healthy state of mind, you’ve already won. You are already further ahead than you would have been had you tried to pump out quantity at the expense of quality and your health.

So, this is how we will be starting June. I want everyone to think about their current mental, physical, emotional and spiritual levels. Are they all at a 10 out of 10?? If not, what do you need to do to shift your scores to the right so they become a 10 out of 10? 
Photo by Aron Visuals on Unsplash

AIM HIGH – An Amazing Short FILM

Amazing Short Horror Film!

Where to start!!? First I am happy that I met Daniel McGuire a few years back through Muay Thai. But unbeknownst to me, I found out, he is also a horror movie buff. And not only does he enjoy horror movies, but it also turns out he writes and directs short films of this genre. Back when we met he told me all about this horror movie he was working on. I can’t actually remember if it was another movie or his current one AIM HIGH. I just know, that off and on, I would always ask him how the progress on his movie was going.

For those of you who don’t know me that well…. I LOVE HORROR MOVIES!!! At Halloween, I used to always watch all the Halloween specials, and horror movies…

Now, into my adulthood, all of October, I watch at least 1 horror movie per night. It is the way I celebrate Halloween every year now. I even go to Horror Movie Festivals!

I felt very honoured to be one of a smaller circle of people to get to view AIM HIGH in its final editing phase. And now, to have just seen a private screening tonight of it as a feature short film was so exciting!!

What can I say!!?? I thought this movie was amazing! What else can I say without giving to much away!???

I really enjoyed the suspense that was developed from beginning to end. I felt there was a lot of creativity not only with set, music, lighting etc., but also with use of the ongoing conversations going on in the minds of the characters involved. If you like dark humour like me, it was HILARIOUS at moments that were perfect! I also really like the actors that were chosen for this movie. Not only are they talented, but I love how expressive their faces are, especially Rebekka Gondosch and Michael Pearson. In particular their eyes!!

Daniel McGuire and the rest of the AIM HIGH team will be starting their festival run in June! They have submitted their short film into a variety of Film Festivals both locally, provincial, nationally, and internationally!

AIM HIGH has been officially selected to screen at this years Calgary Horror Con, Canada’s first and largest Convention dedicated to Horror!! Talk about exciting…I wonder if I can manage to find a way to go!!??

Congratulations Daniel, and congrats to all the rest of the AIM HIGH Team!

WHO ELSE HERE LOVES HORROR MOVIES AS MUCH AS ME?????? Please comment below! 🙂

Trust the wait!

I am sure at some point in your life and maybe even many times in your life you have been put into a position where all you can do is wait.

How you choose to spend that wait time is up to you.

My suggestion is, sure wait, but don’t put your life on hold for anything or anyone.

Spend time doing things that are meaningful to you. Reconnect with friends, try something new. Enjoy life!!!

Main thing is, try not to get stuck in a negative downward spiral feeling like life can’t continue until whatever or whoever you are waiting on is ready for the next move, next idea or next step, whatever that may be.

When things are “ready” they will happen

It’s like waiting for a pot to boil….lol. It will boil when the temperature is hot enough …..

Life wouldn’t be life without these moments. Embrace it, and enjoy what happens when you do

My experience with the Usana 5 day RESET

Yesterday I did a Facebook Live talking about my experience with the 5 day Reset through Usana. I am going to provide you with a You Tube Link so you can hear what I have to say. Just below the video, I talk a bit more about people’s testimonials and the difference between Food Grade and Pharmaceutical Grade Supplements. Please read on after.

What a difference 5 days can make!!

I forgot to mention in my video about the women who talked about their stories where they had dealt with serious health issues almost their whole lives, always wondering no matter what supplements they took (and they took everything you can imagine recommended), why nothing seemed to work.

Part of this is because a lot of supplements out there are Food Grade. There are Food Grade and Pharmaceutical Grade Supplements.

What is the difference?

Food Grade – there are no absorption requirements, contaminants may be present (no pre-inspection requirement) and dosage can vary. Somtimes you are only getting 20% of what you need out of a supplement in a whole bottle!

Pharmaceutical Grade – Absorption required within 45 min, ingredients are inspected prior to production, and you get the exact dosage (100%).

Many of these women, who were on their last rope with things, were willing to try anything else if it meant an improvement in the quality of their lives. Some were skeptical when introduced to the idea of Usana. They moved forward to try Usana supplements because nothing else had worked to help them turn their health around. It was their last resort. Their testimonials were very moving.

One of the big things about Usana products is that they are Pharmaceutical Grade quality. Which is likely a big reason changes were seen in these women. I am huge on anything going into my body being high quality.

If you or anyone else you know has any unresolved health issue, Usana may be the right answer for you. As I like to say, don’t knock it unless you try it. As well, health issues sometimes take a long time to develop, so you also need to be taking a supplement for a while to let the ongoing effects take hold. That being said, I did notice very quick effects on the 5 day RESET. But that product is meant to do that. If you would like to try a product or check something out for someone else I will provide my website below.

On a different note, I am also searching for positive open-minded people to help me educate more people on how Usana can help them to live a happier and healthier life. If you are interested in building a team with me to do this as well as wanting to improve your phyiscal/mental/emotional/ and financial health, visit my website.

https://thrivekellykinetics.usana.com