Know your Limits

My post today comes from seeing an old Facebook Post in my history which I think is so important to learning how to live a balanced life. Its the picture that is the Featured Image.

I think this might be useful to many people, as it seems it is a common problem.

Have you ever found yourself being approached by different co-workers, friends, family etc. to help them out or asking if you want to go out to a special event or any endless list of requests? I am thinking as its just the nature of humans most of us would answer YES to my question.

How do you answer when approached? Do you say yes to them every single time? Do you find as a result that your own projects, hobbies, or “me” time have been put on the back burner? How does this make you feel?

Sometimes saying yes can be exciting, and very positive to our growth, but not always.

If there are any negative thoughts, resentment, or stress associated with the extra you just put onto your own plate and timetable it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities. Stop and try to recognize when it is realistic to add something else into your life that has been requested from someone else. Know your limits and know when its time to start answering no.

For a long time I had to cut back on many things. I slowly started adding my own interests back into my life. Now that I have developed a flow to everything I do, I am feeling a sense of balance.  When approached I can say, this could be a possibility, but not at a high frequency per month (for example).

But I do feel that because I am opening up my mind to new possibilities and directions for my passions and interests, there will be a time again where I will have to cut things off again and say no to anything else new while I try to contribute my best to the projects at hand.

More is not always better. Sometimes it is best to stick to a small number of things and do your best at them. As the saying goes – Quality over Quantity!

What is your experience with this?

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Welcome to my Blog

For some time I have been thinking about starting a blog. There have been many things that I think have kept me from starting one. Maybe they are just excuses, but I see those things as more obstacles to starting than anything else.

The largest obstacles have been:

Spreading myself too thin thinking that I can be super woman and make tonnes of money by not only being a personal trainer, but working at growing a travel business and a business through Arbonne.
Dealing with a health issue that was “aggravated” by doing a fitness competition in 2014. I have had fibroids for years, but they grew rapidly after the fitness competition.

For some time I have been thinking about starting a blog. There have been many things that I think have kept me from starting one. Maybe they are just excuses, but I see those things as more obstacles to starting than anything else.

The largest obstacles have been:

  1. Spreading myself too thin thinking that I can be super woman and make tonnes of money by not only being a personal trainer, but working at growing a travel business and a business through Arbonne.
  2. Dealing with a health issue that was “aggravated” by doing a fitness competition in 2014. I have had fibroids for years, but they grew rapidly after the fitness competition.

I pretty much got sucked down into being distracted by the obstacles, and thinking I could make every single one of them be as successful as the other. My reasoning was, I am generally very successful in everything I decide to do, and excel, so why would I not be able to make all 3 of these fly!?

Time passed, different events occured with the Travel and Arbonne side that were all pointing to either this is a waste of my time, or I really like this, but I just dont have the time on a consistent basis to put into either of these to make them as successful as my personal training career is.

I dropped Arbonne and immediately grew my personal training business and the new business I train in exponentially. Part of me really wanted to hold on to the Travel side of things because I had great perks and it gave me great new experiences that allowed me to grow as an individual…but in 2.5 years, really it was not paying off as it should. That was only because I was inconsistent, but it was for a reason. My passion lies in helping people develop healthier lifestyles!!! I recently gave in my official resignation, and now I feel absolutely free to further develop as a personal trainer and further develop the business.

Where do I train you ask? CoreFit Training http://www.corefit.ca

Once again as soon as I dropped another obstacle, immediately I continue to grow the business! I can do that, I can think about using spare time to study new courses, and I can actually use some more spare time to pick up some things I had dropped for a while. I am also a dancer. I am a professional Middle Eastern Dance Instructor and Performer, and as a hobby I am a Flamenco Dancer. I am also studying the Martial Art Muay Thai, and at some point want to pick up Jujitsu.

Even though I picked up Arbonne and the Travel piece to get myself to a place where I can do what I want where I want when I want….I can actually do that now! haha. I just have to meld my schedule in such a way to make the most money I can, then I can do anything…and selling personal training to people isnt really selling the way I approach things. All i want is to help people, provide them the best service I can in order for them to become healthier, stronger and happier versions of themselves. I can turn people into the best version of themselves! Having my nursing background has been a major factor in the way I approach personal training with people.

My other obstacle messes with my head! Having two fibroids both the size of a baby fetus actually makes me look slightly pregnant. My body otherwise looks really fit, I am strong, and I have lots of great muscle. I gained a few extra pounds….and it makes my belly look bigger than in actually is because of these fibroids. They grew really fast a few months after my first fitness competition. Now I have had my mother, my bosses mother, and a  few clients ask me if I am expecting! LMAO I have to explain to them what is going on. I hate it with a passion.  Imagine the amount of psychological work I had to do with myself first to accept a new stronger body in 2015 after getting down to a skinny nothing for the stage in November 2014. I finally came to peace with myself being heavier, but still lean and more muscular. Then these things start popping out of my belly!! So now I am going through more self-image issues because of a belly that shouldn’t be there!

I went to my family doctor, i asked for a referral to a new Gynecologist. I went, and he said either I get a hysterectomy or i use one of two methods to shrink the fibroids and then get them taken out. Even though I have no plans for children…I don’t want or feel it is necessary to cut everything out. I am 41….I still have some years before I hit menopause…I don’t want to bring it on any sooner than I have to. Another option is medication to shrink them, then a procedure to remove them….I am not a fan of starting any medication and especially one that is going to cost a couple hundred dollars a month! There was also the option to have a procedure to shrink the fibroids then a procedure to get them out.

All I hear is procedure, procedure, procedure!! Hellllloooooo!!! As a personal trainer if I am not working, I am not getting paid…so for me, I need the least amount of time off work or zero time away from work if possible. I refuse to believe I have to do anything unnecessary. I decided to look up natural or herbal ways to deal with the fibroids…..

This is where I am at now. Done some research and going to try a more “holistic” avenue first. We will see over the next few months how it goes….but at least now that I have stopped procrastinating on this option, I feel more at peace, and this health related obstacle is being plowed through now. Hence, the beginning of my blog.

This blog will be everything health, wellness and fitness related. It will be both things happening to me, and things I get asked about and am willing to share and things that are out there that I feel need to be addressed.

I hope you enjoy my blog, and our journey together!!