Know your Limits

My post today comes from seeing an old Facebook Post in my history which I think is so important to learning how to live a balanced life. Its the picture that is the Featured Image.

I think this might be useful to many people, as it seems it is a common problem.

Have you ever found yourself being approached by different co-workers, friends, family etc. to help them out or asking if you want to go out to a special event or any endless list of requests? I am thinking as its just the nature of humans most of us would answer YES to my question.

How do you answer when approached? Do you say yes to them every single time? Do you find as a result that your own projects, hobbies, or “me” time have been put on the back burner? How does this make you feel?

Sometimes saying yes can be exciting, and very positive to our growth, but not always.

If there are any negative thoughts, resentment, or stress associated with the extra you just put onto your own plate and timetable it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities. Stop and try to recognize when it is realistic to add something else into your life that has been requested from someone else. Know your limits and know when its time to start answering no.

For a long time I had to cut back on many things. I slowly started adding my own interests back into my life. Now that I have developed a flow to everything I do, I am feeling a sense of balance.  When approached I can say, this could be a possibility, but not at a high frequency per month (for example).

But I do feel that because I am opening up my mind to new possibilities and directions for my passions and interests, there will be a time again where I will have to cut things off again and say no to anything else new while I try to contribute my best to the projects at hand.

More is not always better. Sometimes it is best to stick to a small number of things and do your best at them. As the saying goes – Quality over Quantity!

What is your experience with this?

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Fitness through Dance and Fitness to Support Dance

I have been studying different forms of dance since the age of 5 yrs old. Ballet, Jazz, Modern, Salsa, Hip Hop, Belly Dance and Flamenco. In the latter part of my dance training it has mostly been Belly Dance and Flamenco.

There was a time where I could do it and nothing phased me. Later I ever so slightly felt it draining me a little more than usual. I never really had injuries from dancing.  As I got older I realized running/jogging and dancing was not going to be what would help me to lose weight anymore. I started to train in the gym seriously with a trainer and then became a trainer.

Once I lost 15-20lbs I noticed differences in my dancing.  Not only was i lighter, but I had developed more muscle in my body. As a result, in bellydance, there were moves like undulations for example that I could execute with little effort, where I know I used to have to use more energy to create certain movements. They became more easy and fluid. With Flamenco, I noticed footwork became easier because i was lighter and also it was stronger because of the amount of muscle being put into it.

Now, what I am finding, and it has been brought to my attention by a friend in my flamenco world that dancers from about 35 yrs+ in age may be in need of more than just dance. There are dancers that lack a strong core, or good muscle development to support the impact created through footwork. Some surprisingly do not have a lot of body awareness and so are not aware of how to get the energy out from their core to their extremities to create energy into the arms, and hands. Because of this they can not create a full package. Because of certain muscle imbalances, injuries either related to dance or outside dance develop and then cause a dancer to have to take time off. (For a dancer to spend any time not dancing is never a good feeling!)

My Flamenco Dance Teacher also recognized there may be a need for some type of fitness class offered for flamenco dancers to increase their strength. Whether its a class or one on one training this is a specialized niche that seems to need some help.

Yes dance of any kind can have great fitness benefits, but sometimes the body requires more to support further improvements to advance to higher levels of proficiency. Or if someone wants to continue dancing for recreation, proper strengthening of the body can further allow a dancer to dance well into their later years.

If you are a dancer and are interested in learning more stay tuned. I will share more!

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A Wonderful Reunion

A few weeks ago I went to a reunion lunch that I organized which took I think 3 months to make happen!

The group, some of my very first Belly Dance Students from maybe 7-10 years ago! We all became friends at one point, and then as everyone started getting married and some having kids, life got hectic and we all parted ways. When we saw each other was at our weddings and some baby showers. We all followed each other through Facebook, but one day I decided, I wasn’t seeing enough of different groups of friends. Part of my life now is rekindling friendships from the distant past that were meaningful to me which just got sidetracked with life.

It was a really nice afternoon. We went to spring rolls downtown. Everyone talked about their kids which was really entertaining. I don’t have kids by choice, so i listen and enjoy, and they all listen to my crazy life. haha

My life full of Martial Arts, Dance, Fitness and Partying. I would like to start adding Travelling back into that list!

We all decided that we should try and meet every 6 months now. I suggested every 3 months, and we decided maybe if we try for every 3 months we will actually meet every 6 months.

Sometimes bonds we create with people when we are younger become just as good if not better later in life. I look forward to rekindling these connections further.

I am just sitting at Starbucks on my morning break before heading back to CoreFit Training to train my clients. Its beautiful and sunny and could not ask for anything more. Well….except for a vacation!! hahahakeep calm the reunion is soon