Even Coaches need Coaches

Its been a while since I wrote a blog. A lot has been happening. I have not felt like writing much of anything until now.

One thing we as Trainers/Coaches and anyone else in a career that helps people need to realize, is that we are not always ok. In order to be the positive influencers for our own clients, we need to be in a positive space, physically, mentally and spiritually. If even one of these areas is off, it can change your thinking, all your interactions and even affect how your business runs .

How in touch with who you are as a person will determine whether you realize if you need help or not. Even if you realize you need help, figuring out what type of help you need for that moment in time is crucial. You may need a coach to help you get in touch with your inner self again before you can even move on.

It’s interesting, because I went through some positive self development last year, and totally thought I was off to the races, until similar patterns crept up this year. I realized I needed to nip this in the bud! Everything was off, I only had a handle on my body physically. I opened myself up to a new circle of people which lead me to my current Self-Actualization/Business Development Coach (Rev Lady Jan).

Most of us know a lot of what a coach like this will talk to us about. But sometimes, it’s so hard to practice what you know. This is why you need to hire that coach. Someone who can keep you accountable, someone who can even explain to you what you may already know, but differently. All of a sudden you see everything in a different light and that’s what sparks the ignition to go!

You may realize, after a lot of blaming everything and everyone else that all the seemingly negative things that are happening, are a result of your own mindset, words you speak and therefore seeds you’ve planted. Do you really want to keep watering those seeds that are just becoming weeds that are clouding your focus??? This might seem like the only thing you can do, because you’ve been living your own manifestation for who knows how long. But guess what!? Its a vicious vicious cycle that if you don’t just decide to stop and make a complete 360 in your mind, you will continue to live the negative manifestation of your life.

You may have heard before, that the mind is a powerful thing. Well this is no joke!

I will admit, I dug myself into a financial hole that was bigger than I could have ever imagined. I spoke words like, “I can’t afford it, I have no money, once I pay my debt off, I wish i could do _____, but I have no money”. I had different variations of all of that, and the more I spoke these words to people, the more they got ingrained in my mind, the more my mind would think about these things, I would imagine the worst, the worst would start happening, and just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, even worse would happen….and sometimes the unimaginable to the point where I was just like, ENOUGH! THIS IS RIDICULOUS! THIS IS NOT ME, and THIS IS NOT MY LIFE.

Its even giving me a headache right now having shared that, but I felt it was important to share to illustrate how severely our own minds can create our self-sabotage.

I started changing my mindset and spoken words and thoughts immediately. Next thing I know I have money to pay for my coach for a 3 month program, and money to pay for a psychotherapist 2-3 times a month. As I am going through new learning on a deeper level than my current knowledge its very easy to have set backs, but I see the set backs coming, I embrace them, acknowledge them, and conquer!

Over the last few months, the universe has brought the right people into my life, and the right set of events are starting to happen, leading to what my true goals for life are.

I am very mindful now of the sentences and words that I speak out loud and in my head. And if at any moment I feel the wrong ones trying to creep back in, which is usually on my off hours not seeing clients, I stop everything and lie down for a guided meditation geared to exactly the thing that is trying to creep in. By the end of it, all has changed and I am back on the right track.

My Life has changed. I live a life full of abundance. I am servicing my perfect niche for clients and I have so much more than I can even have imagined. I am magnificent, and I am a Queen!

If you work with a trainer, coach or therapist who tells you they hired someone, be thankful. The person you go to is working on becoming a better version of themselves which in turn will provide you with an even better service and a better overall outcome for your life and your goals.

I am more than happy to provide contact information for any coaches I have used in the past or am currently working with.

I invite anyone to share their experiences with positive versus negative minds set and what it has manifested in your life.

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Quality Versus Quantity

I was on quite a roll for a while with sending out email campaigns to my mailing list, creating new blogs, and working on website content. Then I had to stop. For a couple weeks I felt that if I sent any emails out, tried to produce any new blogs or continue working on website content that it would not be good quality.
My mind just wasn’t in the head-space that was required to develop good quality content.  Anything I create I have to think is fairly permanent, and so it has to be good. It does not make sense, pushing out loads of stuff if it doesn’t come out as my authentic self, sincere and sounds like I actually care. 

This is a lesson for everyone. Quality far outweighs Quantity. 
However, if a person’s mind set is in the right place, it is entirely possible to push out Quantity with Quality.

Think about your own lives. How have you fared with this? We all have different lives, careers, personal lives etc. Do you ever sacrifice quality for quantity? Do you know how to step back and assess what is going on and know that sometimes it is OK to just stop and take care of yourself?

I have re-developed my ability to tap into my deep gut intuition, and it told me to just stop all work on my business (back end work). For the past couple weeks I have just been working in my business training my clients, but not pushing myself to work on all the behind the scenes stuff so much. When my feelings are geared this way, I go to work, I workout, I go to all the classes I take because they are part of how I stay healthy and true to myself and sane. Healthy nutrition, quality sleep and doing things to pamper yourself are all important too. 

When I first make the decision to step back, I usually get really stressed out because I feel like, OMG, I will get behind, I won’t be able to grow my business fast enough, OMG OMG OMG….hahaha. Yeah you see, how the mind works? The mind is powerful…it can make or break you. And if you decide to keep on going when you shouldn’t, that is when you actually sacrifice quality work.
In the end, sacrificing quality work is a sacrifice in moving yourself forward in anything you do whether you own your own business, whether its a school project, or anything else important. If you give yourself the time to work through whatever it is you need to do to get yourself back to a healthy state of mind, you’ve already won. You are already further ahead than you would have been had you tried to pump out quantity at the expense of quality and your health.

So, this is how we will be starting June. I want everyone to think about their current mental, physical, emotional and spiritual levels. Are they all at a 10 out of 10?? If not, what do you need to do to shift your scores to the right so they become a 10 out of 10? 
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