Arising from the Ashes : Flamenco

Arising from the ashes back in July, really ruffled a lot of “feathers” in me as a woman reaching mid-life. Perhaps you could even say I experienced a serious mid-life crisis! Doesn’t matter to me what you call it…hahah!

Fact is, I went down a dark path, somehow I found my way out even though i got very lost in a world i didn’t know, and because it all happened I am new and improved!

I have found a new zest for life, new found artistic creativity, and am open to all the positive energy that wants to surround me. When you are open to different energies it is what you attract. No more darkness for me…perhaps at that point in my life, I welcomed the unknown darkness because its something I never experienced before and as someone said to me recently,

Flamenco Juerga

maybe i felt guilt for something else I had done and felt it necessary to punish myself. When they said that to me, in my head I was like OMG!! They could be SOOOO right!

SOMETIMES actions we take are totally subconscious.

I am always willing to be open to new experiences…but there is a point when enough is enough and you have to know when to get out or you truly will be lead astray.  I had a moment like that, I was like….

Whoa….this just happened and this was scary…. i can’t let anything affect my ability to dance! %$%&@&$%@ THIS @@%$%@&&&!!!!

For the longest while, still being in “the darkness” was affecting my ability to concentrate in flamenco dance, it was affecting my willingness to push and create a short bit of choreography for a solo in the recital in June, and i hated this feeling. I didn’t know what to do. But I still kept going to class.

Once I put an end to “the darkness”, all of a sudden the light shone! And i mean did it ever shine!!!!

I decided to put any further energy whether positive or negative into the remainder of my flamenco classes in the last couple weeks leading up to our student recital!

And oh boy…..the light and the fire went WHOOSH inside of me ….and emanated out. My red dress…the yellow shawl….. it was the best performance I ever had. It was only the beginning of more!

 

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Know your Limits

My post today comes from seeing an old Facebook Post in my history which I think is so important to learning how to live a balanced life. Its the picture that is the Featured Image.

I think this might be useful to many people, as it seems it is a common problem.

Have you ever found yourself being approached by different co-workers, friends, family etc. to help them out or asking if you want to go out to a special event or any endless list of requests? I am thinking as its just the nature of humans most of us would answer YES to my question.

How do you answer when approached? Do you say yes to them every single time? Do you find as a result that your own projects, hobbies, or “me” time have been put on the back burner? How does this make you feel?

Sometimes saying yes can be exciting, and very positive to our growth, but not always.

If there are any negative thoughts, resentment, or stress associated with the extra you just put onto your own plate and timetable it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities. Stop and try to recognize when it is realistic to add something else into your life that has been requested from someone else. Know your limits and know when its time to start answering no.

For a long time I had to cut back on many things. I slowly started adding my own interests back into my life. Now that I have developed a flow to everything I do, I am feeling a sense of balance.  When approached I can say, this could be a possibility, but not at a high frequency per month (for example).

But I do feel that because I am opening up my mind to new possibilities and directions for my passions and interests, there will be a time again where I will have to cut things off again and say no to anything else new while I try to contribute my best to the projects at hand.

More is not always better. Sometimes it is best to stick to a small number of things and do your best at them. As the saying goes – Quality over Quantity!

What is your experience with this?

Believe it or not, YES it can happen!

Take home message…..be optimistic! If you don’t know how to change something you don’t like, never give up and think it’s not achievable. Someone out there will know how to make it happen. Ask for help and everything CAN change.

One day I was talking to one of my dance teachers. The topic of how some people seem to always have a physical feature their entire life came up. A lot of people think if they have always had a certain shape that its impossible to change that shape.

I will say, we definitely do have part of our shape that was genetic..but when it comes to fat and muscle….you don’t ever have to think you will always be stuck looking the same way.

I have a client who I have been working with for close to 5 years now. She was one who had a wider type of hip shape. She and her friends said she has always had those hips. One of her friends who now also trains with me came to me because after my client got pregnant, I got her back into shape. She lost all her baby fat and went beyond where she was before getting pregnant. Nothing about her hips is the same! She is slender all the way down her entire body and has muscle she continues to build. Her friend said she wanted results like that especially in her legs. I told her, I can definitely make that happen!

Interestingly enough, after a few months of training the next client, she too got pregnant. Because she continued to train with me after finding out, she continues to maintain a strong body, and nothing from the back view looks like she is pregnant. You only see it from the side profile. Imagine being pregnant and fit!! From what I understand, its a pretty amazing feeling. This client said this pregnancy is very different from her first one.

I have another client who is in her 70s. I have managed to get 20lbs off of her and she has maintained that over the last 2 years. She gave me a testimonial, and one of many things she said is, since she was a kid, she always had thighs that rubbed together since she can remember. She never thought it was possible to change that…..low and behold…one day while training with me, she stated that out of the blue one day she realized her legs were no longer rubbing! She was super excited! ,

Take home message…..be optimistic! If you don’t know how to change something you don’t like, never give up and think it’s not achievable. Someone out there will know how to make it happen. Ask for help and everything CAN change.