Self Awareness = Self Control

How aware are you of whether you are full at a meal or not?

How aware are you of whether you really want that dessert, need that dessert, crave that dessert or just need something to do?

Having been in the fitness industry acting as a role model for other people and having been through my own transformation in the past I have a very good handle on this now.

One of the most interesting things to me was my latest vacation to Cuba for the New Year.

In the past I would go to all inclusive resorts and eat more than one plate of food at every meal and go crazy on dessert….If you think about it, All inclusive is kind of like going to an all you can eat buffet …..except now, its all the alcohol you can drink, all the food you can eat. One can take it to the extreme…haha.

This time around, I think because i was in a much more relaxed state (I only used my phone to text maybe 2 days out of 8, and the rest of the time I took pictures), I slowed everything down.

I literally sauntered everywhere. I sat and didn’t rush my meals. I slowed down how often my fork touched my mouth. I slowed down to talk, I slowed down to say hello to the resident cats. Then when my plate was empty I drank my coffee/juice and waited. Sometimes I got up for a little extra, sometimes I didn’t. It was a choice made solely on if I was really still hungry or if I was satisfied or not. I didn’t just blindly get up to get another plate because its already paid for in my all inclusive.

Only 2 out of 7 nights I ate dessert. All the other days I didn’t really care to have anything. One of the desserts was at the a la carte meal, the other was a night when the desserts looked especially special. Otherwise I was able to look at them, by pass them and move on.

I think the main thing is, here at home, we are always going, sometimes on high speed. If your lifestyle is high speed, it would make it very hard to be self aware and demonstrate self control. Take some time to slow down even if its not a vacation. Take some “me” time and start to tune in and see what you can learn about yourself, and see if that helps you to make some lifestyle changes for the better.

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Did you Make New Years Resolutions or did you start setting Goals for 2017 in 2016???

I have chosen to write about this topic because for years I would make New Years Resolutions, nothing was happening and I never fulfilled these resolutions. So many people get stuck in this pattern and then a year later they wonder why they are still making the same Resolutions and why they haven’t made progress life.

I have chosen to write about this topic because for years I would make New Years Resolutions, nothing was happening and I never fulfilled these resolutions. So many people get stuck in this pattern and then a year later they wonder why they are still making the same Resolutions and why they haven’t made progress life.

Since becoming a personal trainer, and since getting some life coaching for a year for myself when I was in a major rut, I have become really sharp at helping people with Goal Setting. Now every year in December I start thinking about my goals for 2017 and then start planning.

Lets take a look at the definitions of Resolutions Vs. Goals!

Resolution can be defined as:

  1. a firm decision to do or not to do something or
  2. the act of solving a problem or contentious matter

Goal can be defined as:

  1. the object of a persons ambition or effort; an aim or desired result

Can you see the difference? To me a resolution is now just the beginning. You can decide that you want to do something or stop doing something, but without putting in the proper steps the desired result will not be achieved. Resolutions also tend to be very general. Goal Setting if done properly should have Goals that are SMART.

Specific

Measurable

Achievable, Attainable, Action-oriented

Realistic, Relevant, Results-oriented

Time-based, Timely, Tangible, Trackable

An example of each would be as follows:

Resolution: lose weight

SMART Goal: A bride may write  – I want to work with a trainer in order to lose 25lbs by May 29, 2017 so that I look and feel amazing in my wedding dress and look great for my pictures

  • this is very specific
  • this is measurable both with a scale and body measurements and
  • requires the action of hiring a trainer to ensure success and is absolutely achievable
  • it is realistic if the clients follows everything the trainer says to do for 5 months
  • definitely time based, and trackable

Can you see how much more success someone will have making goals in this fashion than making a resolution for weight loss?

Sometimes I come across people who know what they should be doing, and have all the right intentions.  Sometimes certain life circumstances out of that persons control serve as obstacles and things that can slow down progress when that person would probably be fine if life wasn’t so stressful.  When this is the case, I dig far deeper into the initial SMART GOALS, and work on a lot of mindset work after people have dug deep into their inner being and figure out the where, why, what, how of everything. On a deeper level this is to ensure those Resolutions and Goals get met. Is this you ?

I invite people to respond. If you already know how to set goals that is great and I wish you all the best for 2017. If you still need help after reading this, or you are in a deeper rut, I invite you to ask more questions. I am happy to help

Happy 2017 to everyone 🙂