Transitions

I have not written here in a while. So much has been going on! There have been a lot of life changes over the past little while. Some good, some appearing not to be good. But really, sometimes things that don’t seem positive are just disguised that way.

I am super happy to be really busy with personal training again. It took me about 2 years to rebuild my clientele up to where it was before I left working for a large corporation. I am happy because I am now able to help a lot of people, and income is not a worry anymore. I do miss having a lot of spare time, but the good thing about being really busy is that, I stay way more organized. I am actually able to accomplish many more things on a daily and weekly basis as well.

In January I returned to flamenco dancing after what I was told about a 2.5 year break! Man, I am never taking that long a break from flamenco ever again. I have a show coming up in August! Excited, yet scared at the same time as i have not done a stage show/recital in either Flamenco or Belly Dance in years! That is ok…i will rock it man! hahaha

Been through some injuries as well…but I am finally getting my body back to normal which means I can train myself again, I can get back into muay thai hopefully full force again and I can keep dancing!

I now just need to find the moment for my next small, medium and large vacations! I need to get away!

As I sit at my desk typing this, i am listening to the sound of the rain falling outside my window and a bus going by. Just waiting to finish my laundry and then make dinner and meal prep for the next couple days.

I have some exciting things coming up!

  • Reunion Lunch with a group of girlfriends who were my very first serious bellydance students ever
  • Flamenco Juerga (Party) hosted by my flamenco dance teacher Carmen Romero
  • My mom’s 76th birthday

Until then…..

 

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Frustration

Don’t you just love when you get involved in something that at first you do just for fun, then you decide you want to become more serious about it?  YES, me too!!

Don’t you just hate it when there are obstacles that make it harder to progress? YEAH, me too!!

I have been studying Muay Thai for about 2.5 years now. I have gone through periods of great growth, plateau periods, and periods where I start to decline due to injuries, being ill or bouts of depression.

I have just started coming out of a decline period…and its so frustrating that my work schedule doesn’t allow me to do any of my instructor’s evening classes. So, I am limited to one weekday and one weekend day. If I can at least stay consistent in those two classes for 1-2 months I know I will be able to grow in MT again. But I know that in April I am going away for one weekend. And I have also learned, that if I take one Saturday a month where I don’t do much of anything and just relax and do self-care, everything else becomes that much better.

I also really want to start learning Jujitsu, but it’s really hard to find a school that has the most convenient location and schedule together which matches with my work  availability.

All that fits my schedule now is boxing. This could be good to learn too, so I may have to go that route for now.

I guess it’s just a matter of being patient, and when a schedule change in my work life opens up, I immediately will jump on the chance to fit something in that I want.

A few months ago, I had a schedule change on a Thursday evening…but the change still wasn’t allowing for the class start time (6pm i think) for my instructor’s Thursday night Muay Thai class. That class started too early still. But I took the chance to bring back my Flamenco Dancing, because that class starts at 8pm;  allows me to still get there.

Oh well. As long as I get to do the things I love everything will get better. I should be grateful I can even take part in things that require me to use my body in different high intensity ways!!

WOOHOOO!!! 🙂

Stepping Back

Sometimes we get caught up in our own lives, our own drama. When that happens, everything and everyone else around us seems to be more annoying….and then we fail to see that someone else actually may need help (more help than we need ourselves).

I stepped back a little last night, and instead of getting angry about a situation I realized that this was actually a moment to reach out and help a colleague (this was a sign that they needed guidance and optimism that there would be a turning point for the positive).

When is the last time you were able to do this (I cant get my question mark to work…hence no question mark after my questions right now).

Yes…everything is not always about you…sometimes we all need to step back to realize this. Its easy to get caught up in trivial things, or things we do not necessarily have control over.

Being able to do this type of thing will decrease your stress, and believe it or not, help you stay focused. This in turn helps you achieve all your goals whether health and fitness based, career based, or other.

Have a great day!

Believe it or not, YES it can happen!

Take home message…..be optimistic! If you don’t know how to change something you don’t like, never give up and think it’s not achievable. Someone out there will know how to make it happen. Ask for help and everything CAN change.

One day I was talking to one of my dance teachers. The topic of how some people seem to always have a physical feature their entire life came up. A lot of people think if they have always had a certain shape that its impossible to change that shape.

I will say, we definitely do have part of our shape that was genetic..but when it comes to fat and muscle….you don’t ever have to think you will always be stuck looking the same way.

I have a client who I have been working with for close to 5 years now. She was one who had a wider type of hip shape. She and her friends said she has always had those hips. One of her friends who now also trains with me came to me because after my client got pregnant, I got her back into shape. She lost all her baby fat and went beyond where she was before getting pregnant. Nothing about her hips is the same! She is slender all the way down her entire body and has muscle she continues to build. Her friend said she wanted results like that especially in her legs. I told her, I can definitely make that happen!

Interestingly enough, after a few months of training the next client, she too got pregnant. Because she continued to train with me after finding out, she continues to maintain a strong body, and nothing from the back view looks like she is pregnant. You only see it from the side profile. Imagine being pregnant and fit!! From what I understand, its a pretty amazing feeling. This client said this pregnancy is very different from her first one.

I have another client who is in her 70s. I have managed to get 20lbs off of her and she has maintained that over the last 2 years. She gave me a testimonial, and one of many things she said is, since she was a kid, she always had thighs that rubbed together since she can remember. She never thought it was possible to change that…..low and behold…one day while training with me, she stated that out of the blue one day she realized her legs were no longer rubbing! She was super excited! ,

Take home message…..be optimistic! If you don’t know how to change something you don’t like, never give up and think it’s not achievable. Someone out there will know how to make it happen. Ask for help and everything CAN change.

 

Did you Make New Years Resolutions or did you start setting Goals for 2017 in 2016???

I have chosen to write about this topic because for years I would make New Years Resolutions, nothing was happening and I never fulfilled these resolutions. So many people get stuck in this pattern and then a year later they wonder why they are still making the same Resolutions and why they haven’t made progress life.

I have chosen to write about this topic because for years I would make New Years Resolutions, nothing was happening and I never fulfilled these resolutions. So many people get stuck in this pattern and then a year later they wonder why they are still making the same Resolutions and why they haven’t made progress life.

Since becoming a personal trainer, and since getting some life coaching for a year for myself when I was in a major rut, I have become really sharp at helping people with Goal Setting. Now every year in December I start thinking about my goals for 2017 and then start planning.

Lets take a look at the definitions of Resolutions Vs. Goals!

Resolution can be defined as:

  1. a firm decision to do or not to do something or
  2. the act of solving a problem or contentious matter

Goal can be defined as:

  1. the object of a persons ambition or effort; an aim or desired result

Can you see the difference? To me a resolution is now just the beginning. You can decide that you want to do something or stop doing something, but without putting in the proper steps the desired result will not be achieved. Resolutions also tend to be very general. Goal Setting if done properly should have Goals that are SMART.

Specific

Measurable

Achievable, Attainable, Action-oriented

Realistic, Relevant, Results-oriented

Time-based, Timely, Tangible, Trackable

An example of each would be as follows:

Resolution: lose weight

SMART Goal: A bride may write  – I want to work with a trainer in order to lose 25lbs by May 29, 2017 so that I look and feel amazing in my wedding dress and look great for my pictures

  • this is very specific
  • this is measurable both with a scale and body measurements and
  • requires the action of hiring a trainer to ensure success and is absolutely achievable
  • it is realistic if the clients follows everything the trainer says to do for 5 months
  • definitely time based, and trackable

Can you see how much more success someone will have making goals in this fashion than making a resolution for weight loss?

Sometimes I come across people who know what they should be doing, and have all the right intentions.  Sometimes certain life circumstances out of that persons control serve as obstacles and things that can slow down progress when that person would probably be fine if life wasn’t so stressful.  When this is the case, I dig far deeper into the initial SMART GOALS, and work on a lot of mindset work after people have dug deep into their inner being and figure out the where, why, what, how of everything. On a deeper level this is to ensure those Resolutions and Goals get met. Is this you ?

I invite people to respond. If you already know how to set goals that is great and I wish you all the best for 2017. If you still need help after reading this, or you are in a deeper rut, I invite you to ask more questions. I am happy to help

Happy 2017 to everyone 🙂